But that last one is totally a shame. Because, even though talking about sex with your friends can be awkward or even flat-out unhelpful, some of the best sex tips and inspo can come from ladies who have been there, done that.
To help you tap into the intel of other women’s sexcapades, Women’s Healthsurveyed 81 real women, ages 22 to 51 to find out their advice for taking your sex life from meh to amazing. And they certainly delivered. Here are some of the best ideas on how to have better romps, more orgasms, and fabulous sexual experiences overall—from ladies who know what’s up.
Communicate about what you like (and don’t like)
“Communicate, communicate, communicate!”—Maire, 23
“Communicate with your partner about what you both need to do, or what it takes for both parties to orgasm.”—Stella, 26
Talk before sex
“Speak up with your partner…always. Ask questions in non-sexy times.”—Stephanie, 32