Talking and listening to each other about your feelings, preferences and desires can bring you closer together and make sex more enjoyable.
But even the most contented lovers can have fun trying new things. Here are a few ideas.
1. Build anticipation
Agree on a period of time – say one week, or whatever works for you – when you won’t have orgasms or penetrative sex. At first, allow only kissing and holding each other. Gradually move on to touching and stroking each other, masturbation, oral sex, or whatever feels right for you. Avoid orgasm.
At the end of the agreed waiting period, allow yourselves the pleasure of orgasm through any kind of sex you like. This week may help heighten your senses to all the other wonderful feelings you can share when you’re making love.
Massage can help you have very sensual sex. As part of foreplay, it’s a great way to start things off slowly and relax into the feel of each other’s skin as your arousal intensifies.
But a simple massage that doesn’t lead to sex can also work wonders for your sex life. A non-sexual massage will familiarise (or refamiliarise) you with your partner’s body, reduce stress, and reaffirm the intimacy between you.
If you don’t want a massage to lead to sex, discuss this with your partner so you can avoid any misunderstanding.
Read more about why it’s good to talk about sex.
3. The senses
Good sex can embrace all the senses, not just touch. Scented oil for a massage, music and candles for soft lighting can all be erotic, as well as listening to your partner’s breathing and the sounds they make. But remember not to get oil on a latex condom, as this can damage it.
Taste each other as you kiss. If you both want to, you could mix food and sex – feed each other something delicious and juicy, such as strawberries.
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