Sex Tips For Men: On Being Good In Bed

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Like being sexy and picking up women, and dating successfully, being good in bed is a skill that will never develop if you fear failure too much. Rather, it feeds on its own success. So the most important thing you need to know about being good in bed is that it’s not really very complicated or difficult at all.

Oh, sure, if you’re an accomplished sexual athlete, you can pore over the Kama Sutra and try exotic positions and dabble in sex toys and scented oils and variations for more than two people. These things have their place and you’ll get to them. But they are really the last 10% of the experience; the first 90% percent consists of learning how to have basic satisfying sex face-to-face with one partner, factory equipment only.

Guys, a few simple techniques and the right attitude will get you most of the way to that goal. And, by the way, part of the reason is today’s girls; it has been long enough since really effective and easy contraception was first deployed in the early 1960s, and I doubt that so many women have ever been more sexually sophisticated or less inhibited in the whole prior history of the world than they are today. You have it easier than you know. So begin with confidence…

Let’s start with attitude. Remember that you’re there to have fun with your partner. Joy and satisfaction are the goals, whether the two of you are just scratching a mutual itch or affirming a lifelong bond. So be generous to your partner — the satisfaction you give her will come back to you. (This advice isn’t quite as true for her, unfortunately — but we’ll cover that below.)

There are three basic ways in which male and female sexual response are different in bed that you’ll need to keep in mind. These differences determine the basic rhythm and pacing of good sex.

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